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Monday, August 10, 2020

Focus on Effort To Live Your Dream


Screenwriting is all about effort. If we invest time and energy into our script, our story will become something special. We must give our dream attention to market our skills and talents. For some unknown reason, human beings focus more time on what attracts attention than on self-care. Focusing on giving effort is the most important action to pursue dreams.

This life is too short to keep complaining and whining about past misfortunes. We are responsible for making our own bed. It is not anyone's fault that we haven't accomplished our dream yet. If we're not doing everything possible to reach our destination, we must perform introspection to understand whether we are allowing our environment to hold us back.

Making people feel sorry for us through self-pity is a form of entitlement. Some people use their problems to win over empaths. If our wants and desires overpower our intuition, we will remain stuck in a fantasy...

This is a true story... I once knew a girl I would do anything for... I admired her amazing creativity. She did this left eye wink that always made me smile. You could not measure her beauty on any scale in this world. I really believed that we could build a better life. When I came along, she revealed to me that she struggled with unhappiness and depression over living in a place that she did not enjoy. Interestingly, I could detect her emotions inside me. She wanted so much to return back to California. Her dream life and her heart remained in the Golden State.

I used to mention that it was sad that a 31 year old girl with so much to offer this world could remain stuck in a dark place that would block her dream. As a writer, I knew how to inject the right words into captions and messages that made people think without having to share the uncomfortable truth with them.

I was proud of this girl for leaving her old life to start something new. She struggled with uncertainty. She assumed she made a mistake leaving her old life. I reminded her that she made the right decision. I recommended that she stay longer because I could feel that what she wanted, would actually happen. She challenged me, saying that she would be alone and experience an even worse life.

It was more than accomplishing a dream; she wanted someone to listen to her, to consider her thoughts and to include her in big decisions. Nevertheless, she wanted her voice heard. She really desired to become a part of an equal relationship where there was mutual respect and true love.

Despite her past decisions, she blamed every person in her life for her low passion and lack of opportunities. She blamed Hollywood producers and directors for failing to recognize her acting talents, even suggesting that she would sacrifice her dignity to increase her chances. Once she opened the door to her real life, her true colors--revealing her messy life: I still stuck around to help support her. I could not deal with her constantly doing silent treatment as a defensive mechanism to hide from her vulnerabilities and insecurities. She always questioned why I helped her. Even though I assured her that I cared about her, she got into these defensive moods with self-doubting and overthinking everything. I gave all of my effort to guide her; however, I put my dream on ice to see that she reached hers.

Our good friendship eventually ended over me telling her that she didn't give her dream enough effort. She feared leaving her dream to rediscover unhappiness once again. She gave a mighty effort to make sure she spoke her mind on my lack of effort. A simple word like "effort" is all I needed to say in an audio and this destroyed all the effort I gave her through her most difficult times.

Two years of focusing my effort on this girl has little meaning now. She said she would never forget me and always remember me. We can't believe everything people say. They say to not be gullible and naive in a dishonest world. I believed that staying true to my core values, such as being nice and sharing/trusting, would bring me closer to her and it did...

Two years later, this former good friend proved the saying right. I should have been reserved and changed the subject after she wanted to discuss her recurring challenges with someone. If we both focused on our dream and didn't get caught up in discussing this big problem, we could still co-exist in this present time. I believe she hasn't applied the right effort to accomplish her dream yet. What she refuses to do is take acting classes, make short films, upload acting scenes on YouTube and listen to people who are not experts in their fields.

It pained me to reflect back to the past with her because we had so many similarities. We established an emotion connection. She embraced my writing dream. Whereas, I believed in her acting dream. Unfortunately, she took comfort in her self-doubts, resorted to overthinking and made excuses to block her production. Doing too much of everything and not giving enough effort for what we really want can doom us.

In my honest opinion, this girl's unwillingness to accept advice may block her Hollywood dream from coming true. It is her life to live... If she wants her dream, self-love and inner happiness, she will have to focus on giving more effort. Getting too comfortable attending social events, receiving compliments and being recognized as part of a perfect couple are temporary experiences. We should never attach our human identity to someone or something else. If we fail later on, we will meet a dark fate. It is extremely important to understand that we are a human being who chooses to do something.

Luckily, I learned my big life lesson from this girl. I developed into a much stronger person. I give plenty of effort to live my dream. I am being patient to reach my better life. I no longer put anyone or anything on a pedestal. I value, respect and love myself. I still operate a YouTube channel that this former good friend advised me to start and even named. I actually listened to what she told me.

I felt that my honesty helped her reach a better life. I could not sit back and lie to her anymore.

After self-observing, I finally figured out that she took advantage of me for her personal gain. She required so much of my time and energy, eventually leaving me behind knowing very little about my life. She left on bad terms, never once apologizing for the past or thanking me to help her grow better. I held the door open to seek closure and she has let go. 20 months later after our last communication, I have given up on her. She is now a distant memory.


I want to remember her as a dream girl who elevated my effort because of my interest in seeing her succeed with a dream that is similar to mine. She was this dream girl I met in real life on the Santa Monica Pier a few years ago to celebrate her birthday. I was so nervous the night before that I could not sleep. The anticipation to meet her resembled a romantic Hollywood movie.

Just imagine if your dream faced you... You had a chance to tell them I can't believe you are here while you were hugging them. She would remind me not to cry because she had tears. My big mistake was giving her yellow flowers ((( I later learned from hearing someone mention that he was lucky he didn't make that mistake. I always believed in her. We talked about so many things that are relevant now. She felt comfortable sharing her most vulnerable moments with me.

At least I know that the one thing she really wanted did come true. I knew she could find someone who would compliment her creative and love life. I believed she achieved the balance she desired. Everything happens for a reason. We can let true love leave to discover their true love. Unconditional love is loving someone with no restraints--you will do anything to make them happy. Sometimes we are only meant to know someone long enough to give them support and to encourage them until they are brave enough to find their better life...



MOOD: Effort is everything...

Desiring our dream to come true starts with taking serious actions to do what always makes us happy... If we do things for the wrong reasons, we will fall harder after failures. Finding balance to appreciate everything we already have will reward us with self-love and inner happiness in this life...


I can now walk away from the past and move forward with my future... #AlwaysSmile #StarbucksLove #BetterLife #YouDidIt #DreamGirl #IWillAlwaysRememberYou  #InTheNextLife 

                                                                                               
                                                                                                                        The End