Living our dream is supposed to be something special that we should embrace along our life journey. Our dream can be anything we set our mind on and seek to accomplish. Our dream can guide us to helping people to realize their potential. Unresolved issues that go untreated can block our progress.
We may assume every new relationship we enter represents our dream. We can have an internal desire to always be with someone, never being alone, never having space to grow better. There can be that new dream girl, dream guy or dream situations we never experienced before. We get lost in these magical moments; meanwhile, we lose sight of our dream.
Why hasn't our dream come true? Why are we frustrated after rejections? Why do we feel we need our dream to be somebody important? Why do we wake up with low energy? There is a reason why this is happening. Either we are struggling with physical health problems, or ignoring a self-worth/self-value psychological challenge that we haven't confronted yet. Maybe we lack confidence, so we overcompensate with posting videos and images that stimulate our mind to raise our dopamine levels.
Getting positive attention, hiding negative criticism and expecting everyone to accept us are some ways we cope with feeling the constant need to get noticed. We may fake our dream until we make it. We can act like we are working on top secret projects. We may tell our fans to stay tuned. Living a lie to impress people can make us feel empty inside. When the lights turn off, we lose our identity. If being authentic does not matter to us, we can continue acting like we are living our dream. We can continue using app enhancers, applying filters and making small talk about a dream we are struggling to reach. Following this 'make believe' plan will not get us any closer to our dream.
Our fans are smarter that we think. They know whether we are accomplished writers, actors, directors, singers, or YouTube stars. All credentials can be verified online... IMDb is the leading Internet movie database that will show past, current and upcoming projects. This movie website also lists the type of roles, written by and directed by credits. Telling white lies is common in the film industry. If people stick to tricking others, they will never give all the effort, energy and time required to live their dream.
The first step to building a loyal following is honesty. Writing intriguing words and showing beautiful pictures to make people envy our lives, even get jealous, are deceptive and misleading. However, sharing all the real steps (including both positive and negative) to live our dream will attract loyal followers who will take interest in our dream pursuit.
Social media takes up a lot of time. Creating stories and uploading posts... Replying back to comments... Answering questions... Thanking people for their positive comments... This redistributes the time and energy we need to manifest our dream into real life. We may rely on likes and comments to boost our daily moods. It can become mundane taking credit for living a dream we are so far from achieving. Taking a break away from social media can rejuvenate our body and mind. For the most part, human beings are not Terminator machines; they need time to recharge.
Time is against us... We are growing older... Our dream will not wait for us to make serious decisions...
We have to take personal responsibility to accept that we are to blame for our mistakes, our lack of opportunities, our lost time, our low energy and our past. Ultimately, we control our own fate. We create our own luck. Embracing our mistakes will show that we value all the lessons learned after experiencing failures. Perhaps, we are taught to empower self-care.
Nevertheless, self-care can be disguised as selfishness to get what we want at all costs--this is the worst path we can follow. When we feel unhappy and depressed for our selfish needs, we do not appreciate the small blessings. We complain, whine, get obsessed, overthink, self-doubt, envy, self-pity, gossip and partake in negative actions that we enjoy or we're oblivious to notice our actions as being toxic. We step on others to get ahead. We take advantage of kind people.
We may forget the contribution that others have to shape our dream, especially after we no longer have any value for them in our current life. Given the time, energy and compassion people share with us, we may disregard this to move on to the net host. We may like to think we did it on our own. Choosing to hide people who meant something in our past reveals our true character. It is a testament of selfishness; only God knows what we did to people. The sad reality: Social media and Hollywood are full of attention seeking, flaky, fickle and pompous people.
With all of the positive attention we receive from everyone, we rarely slow down to see what is happening around us. We don't notice other people's pain and suffering. We fail to change our ways to improve as human beings. We hide behind a false facade to make our fans believe we are someone inspiring, someone motivational, someone talented. We don't do enough self-observing to repair bad habits, instead we keep repeating and keep self-sabotaging to attract temporary attention.
It is highly likely we are spending all of our valuable time, exhausting all of our powerful energy to make another person/other people happy--to make their dream(s) possible. Couples should have their personal time, too. Spending countless hours with our companion will eventually kill the thrill. No matter how much we believe we know about our true love, we really don't know everything. Our significant others can hide the truth like social media: Show what they want everyone to see.
What we view as peace and light can actually be darkness. We can be groomed, be controlled and get manipulated into following another dream plan. Someone we trust can set out on a top secret mission to accomplish their dream. They will take us along on this wild ride to make sure they get what they want most. They need their dream to come true. Deep down inside, they are afraid of their past. They know their actions were immoral. They have something/someone to lose. It is like one of those mystery/thriller movies. When our past returns, we will travel great lengths to silence it. We can lie about people, telling a fabricated story to make ourselves look good and another appear bad.
We are too in love, too invested to investigate. We are stuck in a dream, in a fantasy that is written in the stars. We believe our life is a dream. What we set out to accomplish is not happening yet. We are standing on an artificial stage wooing our online followers. People praise us. They envy us. They think we have an ideal life. They believe we are blessed. They don't know Adam from Eve.
What we fail to see is that people who do not dream big resort to obsessing over others. Boasting, showing off and whatever else we label it as is make believing we are someone important among others. It is our escape from real life to live that fantasy life. We can live in a bubble. Maybe we don't share what we are truly feeling inside with our companion, with our family, with our friends.
The moment we start referring to ourselves by name, we have lost our sense of reality. 'I" becomes our 'first name" as a reference to our imaginary star power. It keeps us believing that we've made it. Truth is, we are not surfing on that California wave that is impressing everyone. We are telling people what they want to hear. We are showing our movie star looks to fit a narrative. However, we are not living our dream the way we imagined it out in our minds numerous times.
Imagine this: What if we could do more to live our dream?
Never disregard the messenger who has no track record. Only stubborn people act condescending to think they know everything. They only listen to people who have succeeded with what they want. Unfortunately, these people get angry, get triggered and feel judged if anyone shares constructive criticism with them. It is their defense mechanism to protect their ego, be prideful and hide insecurities. Confident people listen to advice, tips, and techniques. People with vulnerabilities and insecurities deflect their negativity. We must be prepared to handle the less than glamorous aspects of stardom. We must survive the industry that has left many people broken.
Want to accomplish your Hollywood dream? Take acting classes like A-list actors/actresses do. Listen to acting podcasts. Investigate further into how to live your dream. Think beyond acting and enter writing and producing. If you want to become a screenwriter, read about your favorite screenwriters on blogs and in books. Go to film festivals and meet people with the same interests. Go on meetups to discuss writing, acting, music and business opportunities. Make audition videos to share your acting. Ask for honest advice about your performances. Submit completed scripts into screenwriting competitions. Share your gifts and talents to inspire others. Don't just fake it until you believe you will make it. It does not get any easier wasting more time waiting for a big break.
Respect your dream as well as the people who helped you reach your destination.
Never get offended and take revenge because you feel like you're being judged. If you repeat this behavior, you will restrict your future success. People will always have their personal opinions about you. They may want you to follow their plan. They may want to control your life. They may get jealous of what you have and/or already accomplished. They may gossip about you to feel better. They may 'call you out' to show they care about your life. They may assume your life is perfect. Just know that nobody on this Earth is perfect. We are all imperfect human beings. We can do better to work on ourselves. Confident people never compare themselves to others--they develop a system that works best for their life.
Many men and women fail in the dating world. They may show up to a date with a baggage of problems. They can become desperate, needy and clingy. They believe someone can bring happiness into their unappealing lives. They search for someone who can rescue them from their dark past. They have a clear objective in mind to have children. They need people to see them with an attractive companion to feel valuable. They want to escape someone who has terrorized their life. Sharing negative details with our date is too risky. In our conflicting stories, we may expose problems that comprise another person's core values. If we never take personal responsibility, we will attract enablers who accept us for who we are. Little do they know we're hiding our true self.
Just imagine knowing the truth about everything. You can see right through people. You can know all of their darkest secrets. You can save so much time avoiding toxic people. You will know when someone else is using you to shape their brands. They need you to build their public image.
Your dream cannot afford to lose time. We can replace lost energy but wasting time can/will compromise our dream. Being good looking and/or pretty have a shelf life online. Eventually, people will move on to better things and what dream we wanted to come true will wither away like a tumbleweed in a ghost town. Believe it or not, there is a moment when the window leaves a small crash for us to slip through. We can live our dream. It is not impossible to capture that star that excites us.
Balancing our dream with our daily life is extremely important. There is a life outside of our comfort zone. Don't get caught up in the attention. Don't attach your identity to your dream. Don't put people on pedestals to make them appear heavenly We must think about our future. Compromising matters. Stay humble. Keep moving forward. Value your dream. Even if you never accomplish your dream, learn to love yourself.
Hugh Hefner knew how to live a dream. He was an authentic individual who built an empire on the objectification of beautiful women and their bodies and. Read the following article to follow a dream advice that actually works:
https://www.knowledgeformen.com/hugh-hefner-life-lessons/
I'll leave you guys with these famous quotes to live your dream. If your dream is your first love, respond with serious actions to live it...
“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.”
— Walt Disney
“At first, dreams seem impossible, then improbable, and eventually inevitable.”
– Christopher Reeve
“Let’s go invent tomorrow instead of worrying about what happened yesterday.”
– Steve Jobs
"Life is too short to live someone else's dream."
– Hugh Hefner
Happy Screenwriting!
Your dream is what you make of it... How you pursue what you love is your personal choice. If you are recruited into building other people's dreams without knowing their real motivation, you are missing out on moving forward with what truly fulfills you inside--your real purpose in this life. Silent angels do exist on Earth to help guide your dream, love and happiness...
