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Showing posts with label time management. Show all posts
Showing posts with label time management. Show all posts

Monday, August 10, 2020

Focus on Effort To Live Your Dream


Screenwriting is all about effort. If we invest time and energy into our script, our story will become something special. We must give our dream attention to market our skills and talents. For some unknown reason, human beings focus more time on what attracts attention than on self-care. Focusing on giving effort is the most important action to pursue dreams.

This life is too short to keep complaining and whining about past misfortunes. We are responsible for making our own bed. It is not anyone's fault that we haven't accomplished our dream yet. If we're not doing everything possible to reach our destination, we must perform introspection to understand whether we are allowing our environment to hold us back.

Making people feel sorry for us through self-pity is a form of entitlement. Some people use their problems to win over empaths. If our wants and desires overpower our intuition, we will remain stuck in a fantasy...

This is a true story... I once knew a girl I would do anything for... I admired her amazing creativity. She did this left eye wink that always made me smile. You could not measure her beauty on any scale in this world. I really believed that we could build a better life. When I came along, she revealed to me that she struggled with unhappiness and depression over living in a place that she did not enjoy. Interestingly, I could detect her emotions inside me. She wanted so much to return back to California. Her dream life and her heart remained in the Golden State.

I used to mention that it was sad that a 31 year old girl with so much to offer this world could remain stuck in a dark place that would block her dream. As a writer, I knew how to inject the right words into captions and messages that made people think without having to share the uncomfortable truth with them.

I was proud of this girl for leaving her old life to start something new. She struggled with uncertainty. She assumed she made a mistake leaving her old life. I reminded her that she made the right decision. I recommended that she stay longer because I could feel that what she wanted, would actually happen. She challenged me, saying that she would be alone and experience an even worse life.

It was more than accomplishing a dream; she wanted someone to listen to her, to consider her thoughts and to include her in big decisions. Nevertheless, she wanted her voice heard. She really desired to become a part of an equal relationship where there was mutual respect and true love.

Despite her past decisions, she blamed every person in her life for her low passion and lack of opportunities. She blamed Hollywood producers and directors for failing to recognize her acting talents, even suggesting that she would sacrifice her dignity to increase her chances. Once she opened the door to her real life, her true colors--revealing her messy life: I still stuck around to help support her. I could not deal with her constantly doing silent treatment as a defensive mechanism to hide from her vulnerabilities and insecurities. She always questioned why I helped her. Even though I assured her that I cared about her, she got into these defensive moods with self-doubting and overthinking everything. I gave all of my effort to guide her; however, I put my dream on ice to see that she reached hers.

Our good friendship eventually ended over me telling her that she didn't give her dream enough effort. She feared leaving her dream to rediscover unhappiness once again. She gave a mighty effort to make sure she spoke her mind on my lack of effort. A simple word like "effort" is all I needed to say in an audio and this destroyed all the effort I gave her through her most difficult times.

Two years of focusing my effort on this girl has little meaning now. She said she would never forget me and always remember me. We can't believe everything people say. They say to not be gullible and naive in a dishonest world. I believed that staying true to my core values, such as being nice and sharing/trusting, would bring me closer to her and it did...

Two years later, this former good friend proved the saying right. I should have been reserved and changed the subject after she wanted to discuss her recurring challenges with someone. If we both focused on our dream and didn't get caught up in discussing this big problem, we could still co-exist in this present time. I believe she hasn't applied the right effort to accomplish her dream yet. What she refuses to do is take acting classes, make short films, upload acting scenes on YouTube and listen to people who are not experts in their fields.

It pained me to reflect back to the past with her because we had so many similarities. We established an emotion connection. She embraced my writing dream. Whereas, I believed in her acting dream. Unfortunately, she took comfort in her self-doubts, resorted to overthinking and made excuses to block her production. Doing too much of everything and not giving enough effort for what we really want can doom us.

In my honest opinion, this girl's unwillingness to accept advice may block her Hollywood dream from coming true. It is her life to live... If she wants her dream, self-love and inner happiness, she will have to focus on giving more effort. Getting too comfortable attending social events, receiving compliments and being recognized as part of a perfect couple are temporary experiences. We should never attach our human identity to someone or something else. If we fail later on, we will meet a dark fate. It is extremely important to understand that we are a human being who chooses to do something.

Luckily, I learned my big life lesson from this girl. I developed into a much stronger person. I give plenty of effort to live my dream. I am being patient to reach my better life. I no longer put anyone or anything on a pedestal. I value, respect and love myself. I still operate a YouTube channel that this former good friend advised me to start and even named. I actually listened to what she told me.

I felt that my honesty helped her reach a better life. I could not sit back and lie to her anymore.

After self-observing, I finally figured out that she took advantage of me for her personal gain. She required so much of my time and energy, eventually leaving me behind knowing very little about my life. She left on bad terms, never once apologizing for the past or thanking me to help her grow better. I held the door open to seek closure and she has let go. 20 months later after our last communication, I have given up on her. She is now a distant memory.


I want to remember her as a dream girl who elevated my effort because of my interest in seeing her succeed with a dream that is similar to mine. She was this dream girl I met in real life on the Santa Monica Pier a few years ago to celebrate her birthday. I was so nervous the night before that I could not sleep. The anticipation to meet her resembled a romantic Hollywood movie.

Just imagine if your dream faced you... You had a chance to tell them I can't believe you are here while you were hugging them. She would remind me not to cry because she had tears. My big mistake was giving her yellow flowers ((( I later learned from hearing someone mention that he was lucky he didn't make that mistake. I always believed in her. We talked about so many things that are relevant now. She felt comfortable sharing her most vulnerable moments with me.

At least I know that the one thing she really wanted did come true. I knew she could find someone who would compliment her creative and love life. I believed she achieved the balance she desired. Everything happens for a reason. We can let true love leave to discover their true love. Unconditional love is loving someone with no restraints--you will do anything to make them happy. Sometimes we are only meant to know someone long enough to give them support and to encourage them until they are brave enough to find their better life...



MOOD: Effort is everything...

Desiring our dream to come true starts with taking serious actions to do what always makes us happy... If we do things for the wrong reasons, we will fall harder after failures. Finding balance to appreciate everything we already have will reward us with self-love and inner happiness in this life...


I can now walk away from the past and move forward with my future... #AlwaysSmile #StarbucksLove #BetterLife #YouDidIt #DreamGirl #IWillAlwaysRememberYou  #InTheNextLife 

                                                                                               
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Tuesday, April 12, 2016

Spreading Yourself Too Thin

Are you spreading yourself too thin? Taking on more projects than you can handle? Struggling to say no to clients? Spreading yourself too thin is part of the reason you may experience problems with completing scripts. Your time is extremely important. Cutting into this time can block screenwriting.

Sure, you want to help people. While you help people, your script projects are put on hold. This valuable time is shifted to writing content you may view as survival money. Meanwhile, your future screenwriting dream is waiting another day, another month, another year. This vicious cycle of spreading yourself too thin steals your dream.

If you're serious about becoming a great screenwriter, please value your time. Don't spread yourself so thin that you lack any energy to write scripts. The bigger picture is that you want to become that amazing screenwriter. If you already screen-write in Hollywood, then you know time is of the essence.

Review all your projects to see how much time you have available to outside projects. If writing is your survival gig, then you need a good schedule to keep on track. It is easy to fall behind and jeopardize your reputation as a professional writer. It is not okay to postpone paid projects, or tell a movie studio they must wait on revisions. Don't throw away your future being too nice.

Spreading yourself too thin is doing projects that don't advance your dream. In a way, you may be sabotaging your future wasting your time. You may struggle with saying no to clients, friends, family, and co-workers. If you can't complete projects on time, please say no.

Don't play around with time management because it will defeat you. You will lose valuable writing projects from these missed deadlines. You can suffer financially once your projects dry up.

Screenwriting is likely a side gig since you rely on writing and/or a primary job to survive. Just know that pages won't fill up without you writing them out.

Build a strong foundation. Structure your time so you can screen-write. Juggle paid writing projects, enough of them that keep money flowing in and give you ample time to devote to screenwriting.

Don't make the "spreading too thin" mistake. Doing too much of what you don't love instead of what you really love will cheat your dream. Your dream will eventually move on to a better suitor. 

Respect your time. Your screenwriting depends on you typing those vibrant stories, those original stories, those great movies with the potential to inspire people. Become that screenwriter today!

Happy Screenwriting!






Saturday, August 30, 2014

Be Selfish with Your Time

Screenwriters must value their time to write great scripts. Time is of the essence. Don't allow any person to influence your time and block you from accomplishing success as a screenwriter.

Screenwriting is not an easy craft to master. It's not because a writer is not talented enough, is because you must protect yourself from family, friends, co-workers and strangers that use negativity as empowerment to disrupt you. They believe success is based on immediate results, so writing is viewed as a struggling art that lacks substance and profitability. Their first impression of you is that you're dreaming and can't compete against what they believe are highly talented professionals.

Little do these people know that your writing can earn you a good living. People are quick to judge. If you don't drive a fancy car and own a home, you are considered a failure.

Education doesn't matter to these people. Some people have said that college degrees make good toilet paper. It is the mere fact that if you're not earning money and hold a quality education, then this is frowned upon. People form an image of you as being unreliable to search for realistic jobs. They see you as dreamer who doesn't want to wake up to reality.

What if you have already developed a writing portfolio? You've probably written quality projects. While these writing samples are out there, making a name for oneself can actually be compromised. Writers must survive, which is the reason they take money rather than credit. In result, the writer is prevented from showcasing all their past writing work and this may impact their job hunt.

Family, friends, co-workers and strangers can become antagonists that make you feel insecure about your screenwriting goals. These people may represent conflict, obstacles and challenges which resemble structured scenes in screenplays.

Be selfish with your time and don't give your time away so easily. Never let this negativity, this jealousy block your success. Your dream is about your happiness. Think of all the people in the world that can benefit from your stories. Thus, your dream makes many people smile. It makes them ambiguous. It inspires and motivates them to dream like you and everyone else.

You wasting time trying to please others may hurt your chances. It really depends on the attitudes that surround you. If people look down at you, then you are fighting an impossible battle. Screenwriters need to survive in the moment until their scripts are optioned and/or if another writing project arrives that keeps the income streaming in.

For most screenwriters, consistency is never a dependable theme. It's sad to say that money and lack of support kill screenwriting dreams. Those screenwriters who can overcome these major challenges will reach the top. It is true that the odds are against you. They really are. Not for the reason you think with lacking talent, instead this setback is lacking support.

Protect your dream. Utilize time management to treat your screenwriting dream like a job. If you're not a working screenwriter, your screenwriting is primarily your future job and career. Schedule time to write. Don't let people deter you because they will instill fear and doubt in your mind. If you allow this to happen, you don't really want to become a successful screenwriter.

Be selfish with your time. Treat your screenwriting like a job. People don't usually bother others that go to work. They may bother you because they think you're just a writer and nothing is happening in your life. Don't believe this. Everything is happening.

Tell them you have to work. You have projects to complete. In time, your dream of becoming a screenwriter will gain traction and people will watch your work unfold. Just believe in yourself and never falter on fears. Screenwriting is your journey to teach people about real life, real struggles and real dreams.

We are capable of reaching dreams. Our passion and desire rely on time. We have a certain amount of time allotted to this dream before we must move on. Just like movies, we can keep the audience in the movie theater forever. Your time matters most, so don't waste it on people who want to sabotage your dreams, your success, your happiness.

***A good movie to watch about a real-life character experiencing unfortunate events and reaching a dream is The Pursuit of Happyness. Perseverance and persistence are the foundation to prosperity.