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Showing posts with label believing in yourself. Show all posts
Showing posts with label believing in yourself. Show all posts

Sunday, October 4, 2020

The Social Media Game

In my honest opinion: There are many effective ways to confront the trolling/hating/negativity problem we see on platforms designed to create 24-7 attention online—dopamine rush. 

Become the change you want to see in this world... Write a self-love book, become a personal coach, teach personal growth from conflict to resolution, empower people through sharing other people’s stories, understand that countless people are broken beyond repair and crave envy/jealousy to function and recognize that people playing victims are actually enablers. 

What doesn’t work is self-pity, making people feel sorry and calling them out because the aggressors know they are winning. If we make little short films to show what we dislike and share these video clips, this creativity can increase public awareness. 

What works is gaining enough confidence to never worry about these people. 


Living life offline enjoying the simple moments matter most. Don’t delete negative comments to show people the real truth. If we have to explain what we want from others and justify why we should be treated a certain way as compared to others, we will never find inner peace and happiness. We shouldn’t exhaust our valuable energy challenging “out of touch” people. 


Working hard and teaching others how to stay fit can get rid of negative distractions. 


There is an obvious difference between confident people and those who struggle with low self-esteem and hide their pain/suffering. You can detect almost any positive/negative traits in the words. 


What people want to see is the steps to build better health and fitness. They want to know when we have off-days and how we overcome them. 


In the past few weeks, I elevated my fitness to achieve bigger goals that have drastically improved my focus and overall production. It’s exciting to pursue mini goals because taking action will bring us closer to our dreams. 


There is a reason there are stands where people just clap, support, shout, envy and act jealous—some people just accept complaining, whining, praising and self-doubting as a disguise to mask fear. These widely popular people providing entertainment on the court, on a field, in a ring, on a platform and on a stage have undergone immense criticism and still defied traditional conventions—even their family and friends have pushed big mountains in front of them to block their dreams/goals. 


If successful people allow other people’s negativity to seep into their minds, they will keep losing in this life. 


We live in a critical world; however, it is important for us to remain positive. Positive change starts with us... 


As a writer, I welcome criticism, the truth, negativity and jealousy. If I’m going to pitch a screenplay to executives, I will not tell them I deserve an option because I worked hard, I had to overcome many challenges, I had to take several jobs, I have no support and every other self-pity antic. They want to see a confident pitch that follows the industry steps. No amount of kicking and screaming will convince them to purchase a bad story. Besides, I wouldn’t waste my time sitting in a dark movie theater watching a happy story from beginning to end. 


The Pursuit of Happyness is a perfect movie to convey resilience and equal competition. Check out “Smithereens” Black Mirror episode. The answers you seek are there. Good luck 😊 

Monday, August 10, 2020

Focus on Effort To Live Your Dream


Screenwriting is all about effort. If we invest time and energy into our script, our story will become something special. We must give our dream attention to market our skills and talents. For some unknown reason, human beings focus more time on what attracts attention than on self-care. Focusing on giving effort is the most important action to pursue dreams.

This life is too short to keep complaining and whining about past misfortunes. We are responsible for making our own bed. It is not anyone's fault that we haven't accomplished our dream yet. If we're not doing everything possible to reach our destination, we must perform introspection to understand whether we are allowing our environment to hold us back.

Making people feel sorry for us through self-pity is a form of entitlement. Some people use their problems to win over empaths. If our wants and desires overpower our intuition, we will remain stuck in a fantasy...

This is a true story... I once knew a girl I would do anything for... I admired her amazing creativity. She did this left eye wink that always made me smile. You could not measure her beauty on any scale in this world. I really believed that we could build a better life. When I came along, she revealed to me that she struggled with unhappiness and depression over living in a place that she did not enjoy. Interestingly, I could detect her emotions inside me. She wanted so much to return back to California. Her dream life and her heart remained in the Golden State.

I used to mention that it was sad that a 31 year old girl with so much to offer this world could remain stuck in a dark place that would block her dream. As a writer, I knew how to inject the right words into captions and messages that made people think without having to share the uncomfortable truth with them.

I was proud of this girl for leaving her old life to start something new. She struggled with uncertainty. She assumed she made a mistake leaving her old life. I reminded her that she made the right decision. I recommended that she stay longer because I could feel that what she wanted, would actually happen. She challenged me, saying that she would be alone and experience an even worse life.

It was more than accomplishing a dream; she wanted someone to listen to her, to consider her thoughts and to include her in big decisions. Nevertheless, she wanted her voice heard. She really desired to become a part of an equal relationship where there was mutual respect and true love.

Despite her past decisions, she blamed every person in her life for her low passion and lack of opportunities. She blamed Hollywood producers and directors for failing to recognize her acting talents, even suggesting that she would sacrifice her dignity to increase her chances. Once she opened the door to her real life, her true colors--revealing her messy life: I still stuck around to help support her. I could not deal with her constantly doing silent treatment as a defensive mechanism to hide from her vulnerabilities and insecurities. She always questioned why I helped her. Even though I assured her that I cared about her, she got into these defensive moods with self-doubting and overthinking everything. I gave all of my effort to guide her; however, I put my dream on ice to see that she reached hers.

Our good friendship eventually ended over me telling her that she didn't give her dream enough effort. She feared leaving her dream to rediscover unhappiness once again. She gave a mighty effort to make sure she spoke her mind on my lack of effort. A simple word like "effort" is all I needed to say in an audio and this destroyed all the effort I gave her through her most difficult times.

Two years of focusing my effort on this girl has little meaning now. She said she would never forget me and always remember me. We can't believe everything people say. They say to not be gullible and naive in a dishonest world. I believed that staying true to my core values, such as being nice and sharing/trusting, would bring me closer to her and it did...

Two years later, this former good friend proved the saying right. I should have been reserved and changed the subject after she wanted to discuss her recurring challenges with someone. If we both focused on our dream and didn't get caught up in discussing this big problem, we could still co-exist in this present time. I believe she hasn't applied the right effort to accomplish her dream yet. What she refuses to do is take acting classes, make short films, upload acting scenes on YouTube and listen to people who are not experts in their fields.

It pained me to reflect back to the past with her because we had so many similarities. We established an emotion connection. She embraced my writing dream. Whereas, I believed in her acting dream. Unfortunately, she took comfort in her self-doubts, resorted to overthinking and made excuses to block her production. Doing too much of everything and not giving enough effort for what we really want can doom us.

In my honest opinion, this girl's unwillingness to accept advice may block her Hollywood dream from coming true. It is her life to live... If she wants her dream, self-love and inner happiness, she will have to focus on giving more effort. Getting too comfortable attending social events, receiving compliments and being recognized as part of a perfect couple are temporary experiences. We should never attach our human identity to someone or something else. If we fail later on, we will meet a dark fate. It is extremely important to understand that we are a human being who chooses to do something.

Luckily, I learned my big life lesson from this girl. I developed into a much stronger person. I give plenty of effort to live my dream. I am being patient to reach my better life. I no longer put anyone or anything on a pedestal. I value, respect and love myself. I still operate a YouTube channel that this former good friend advised me to start and even named. I actually listened to what she told me.

I felt that my honesty helped her reach a better life. I could not sit back and lie to her anymore.

After self-observing, I finally figured out that she took advantage of me for her personal gain. She required so much of my time and energy, eventually leaving me behind knowing very little about my life. She left on bad terms, never once apologizing for the past or thanking me to help her grow better. I held the door open to seek closure and she has let go. 20 months later after our last communication, I have given up on her. She is now a distant memory.


I want to remember her as a dream girl who elevated my effort because of my interest in seeing her succeed with a dream that is similar to mine. She was this dream girl I met in real life on the Santa Monica Pier a few years ago to celebrate her birthday. I was so nervous the night before that I could not sleep. The anticipation to meet her resembled a romantic Hollywood movie.

Just imagine if your dream faced you... You had a chance to tell them I can't believe you are here while you were hugging them. She would remind me not to cry because she had tears. My big mistake was giving her yellow flowers ((( I later learned from hearing someone mention that he was lucky he didn't make that mistake. I always believed in her. We talked about so many things that are relevant now. She felt comfortable sharing her most vulnerable moments with me.

At least I know that the one thing she really wanted did come true. I knew she could find someone who would compliment her creative and love life. I believed she achieved the balance she desired. Everything happens for a reason. We can let true love leave to discover their true love. Unconditional love is loving someone with no restraints--you will do anything to make them happy. Sometimes we are only meant to know someone long enough to give them support and to encourage them until they are brave enough to find their better life...



MOOD: Effort is everything...

Desiring our dream to come true starts with taking serious actions to do what always makes us happy... If we do things for the wrong reasons, we will fall harder after failures. Finding balance to appreciate everything we already have will reward us with self-love and inner happiness in this life...


I can now walk away from the past and move forward with my future... #AlwaysSmile #StarbucksLove #BetterLife #YouDidIt #DreamGirl #IWillAlwaysRememberYou  #InTheNextLife 

                                                                                               
                                                                                                                        The End

Tuesday, April 9, 2019

Focus on yourself to grow your screenwriting career

Screenwriting is all about you. You represent the one person who can make a screenplay really good. 

Focus on yourself. Grow as a writer. Find your writing voice. Notice your value. Don't be desperate. Don't chase unless this is happening in your script. 

Be confident to write and pitch. Know your characters, plot and theme. Compare your script to past projects.

If we focus on all aspects of filmmaking, we will be better equipped to navigate through the film industry. Focusing on helping others to get what you want can take away valuable time from your dream. 

Guiding people to find success is a good thing; however, there are some people with immoral intentions to take advantage. When their dream becomes more important than yours, you will delay your success. 

Don't lose time and energy on the wrong people. Protect your dream. Nobody will love your dream as much as you love it.  

Prepare yourself to be more than just a screenwriter. Screenwriters should think like producers. 

Remember to write the raw pages to flush out your creativity.